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Coming Out Stories

Coming Out Stories – Patrick

I remember the first person I ever came out to. Her name was Susan (name changed), and she lived up the street from me. I was in 8th grade, and I remember taking the bus one cold Fall morning when she suddenly turned around and told me, “If you want to tell me something…anything. Even if it’s a secret, I’m here for you.” This friend of mine had been hinting that she was open to new ideas for a long time, but I was still so unsure that she would be the right person to tell about my sexuality.

You see, I knew from the age of 5 that I was attracted to men. I got in trouble during daycare because during naptime, I touched another boy. He cried foul, but while the lecturing of the Christian daycare instructor faded out while I contemplated, I suddenly realized that yes, I did like boys! Later on in my life, as I saw people rail against homosexuality, I remember getting inordinately angry. I felt like they were insulting me, and they were.

But back to Susan. Susan turned around and reassured me that I could tell her anything. So I came out to her later that day, and she was overjoyed. I think that she was kind of in search of a GBF (Gay Best Friend), which she got, but it also showed that she was open to the idea. I’m glad to say that the majority of people I have met in life have been open to new and different perspectives on sexuality. Even my parents, who initially were closed to the idea of homosexuality, have become a little more open.

Coming out to my parents, especially as they come from a traditional Asian culture, was difficult. At first, they did not even have the vocabulary through which to process information about my sexuality. But in time, I hope that they too will come to accept me fully as just their son.


*name has been changed

About Miyuki Baker

Miyuki is a resident of the place where circles overlap. As a queer, nomadic, multi-racial/lingual female mixed-media artist activist and healer, she uses common or discarded objects, personal anecdotes, public spaces and performance to make accessible art that brings non-mainstream identities and ideas into maximum visibility. After graduating from Swarthmore College in 2012, she traveled for 14 months as a Watson Fellow to fifteen countries documenting the intersections of art and activism in queer/trans communities in blog posts and self-published magazines while making performance art. The eight magazines Miyuki created on this trip (queerscribe.com) and their strong media following exemplify her illustration/graphic design, storytelling and people skills. Her work has been featured in several magazines such as Hyphen, Broken Pencil and Knik, blogs and radio shows, well-known for their interactive and eye-catching mixed media approach to activism that utilizes both online media and on-site performance and workshops. This fall she will begin the PhD program at UC Berkeley in Performance Studies. You can follow her travels at heymiyuki.wordpress.com and email her at heymiyuki@gmail.com


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