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Coming Out Stories

Coming Out Stories – Miki

It was my sophomore year of high-school. I tried to act like everything was okay but I was miserable! Whether I was at school or looking up at the ceiling late at night, questions would creep into my mind.  Was I really gay? And if I was, how would I live my life? What would my parents think? What would they do? And my friends?  My Filipino/Roman Catholic upbringing had taught me that being gay was a sin. I felt that I had two choices- 1. Come out and deal with whatever happened or 2. Live with the secret FOREVER.  I decided to go with the latter. I hated keeping the secret but back then my fear outweighed that. I tried to forget it. I tried to find ways to escape dealing with it. I became depressed and at times, contemplated suicide.

Somehow I had come across a quote, “It is better to be hated for who you are than loved for whom you are not.” It inspired me and I had decided that I couldn’t keep living the way I had been. I couldn’t imagine keeping my secret forever. I came out to my siblings first and then my friends, and to my surprise they were all accepting. It was terrifying and liberating all at the same time. I told my parents last. They didn’t disown me or force me into some sort of religious therapy like I had feared. But their initial reaction was “you’re not old enough to make that decision!” They also blamed a slightly older love interest into “turning” me gay. I can’t quite remember anymore but I don’t think I bothered to tell them that they were the last ones I came out to! As for blaming my love interest, sometime later my mother admitted that she always knew I was gay. It’s been 8 years since then and my parents are supportive and accepting of my sexual orientation.

About Miyuki Baker

Miyuki is a resident of the place where circles overlap. As a queer, nomadic, multi-racial/lingual female mixed-media artist activist and healer, she uses common or discarded objects, personal anecdotes, public spaces and performance to make accessible art that brings non-mainstream identities and ideas into maximum visibility. After graduating from Swarthmore College in 2012, she traveled for 14 months as a Watson Fellow to fifteen countries documenting the intersections of art and activism in queer/trans communities in blog posts and self-published magazines while making performance art. The eight magazines Miyuki created on this trip (queerscribe.com) and their strong media following exemplify her illustration/graphic design, storytelling and people skills. Her work has been featured in several magazines such as Hyphen, Broken Pencil and Knik, blogs and radio shows, well-known for their interactive and eye-catching mixed media approach to activism that utilizes both online media and on-site performance and workshops. This fall she will begin the PhD program at UC Berkeley in Performance Studies. You can follow her travels at heymiyuki.wordpress.com and email her at heymiyuki@gmail.com


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