Giang from the popular tumblr page FYAD (Fuck Yeah Asian Dykes!) has joined us today to answer some Out and Successful questions. Giang actively participates in less radical groups and co-facilitate a queer social-support groups in New Zealand. She’s into the personal politics and exploring the power of media on society. She believes in building and maintaining community support structures.
Who? name, age, what you identify as (or not)
Giang, 22, queer.
What? what do you do for a living or things you would like to do
I’m a student doing a double degree of Sociology and Human Nutrition at Otago University. I work part time as a house cleaner for a crazy family who can’t seem to clean up after themselves. I’m also a volunteer youth worker running 2 queer youth groups for under 20’s and uni students. I want to eventually go onto a Masters degree in Public Health.
When did you come out? Any stories?
I came out when I was 19. I had been living away from home for over a year and started coming to terms with my sexuality during this stage. That was probably the hardest part – telling myself that it was okay to be myself and that my friends would be okay with it too.
My friends reacted really warmly. A guy I was living with at the time took a while to stomach it, but it was more so because he didn’t see it coming. Other people that I’ve told along the way have a range of reactions but I’m glad that I did come out – it’s really shown me who my real friends are.
As for gender, I don’t really come out or give myself a label. All I know is that I feel uncomfortable with the label ‘woman’ or ‘lady’, but I’m pretty happy with ‘girl’. I just live how I want and let others decide what they want to make of me. I have a few trans friends so often people will think I’m trans too but I don’t correct them, I am a trans ally.
How did coming out impact your career or relationships with others?
I got into volunteer and youth work through networking with amazing queer people. It’ll probably shape my career path in the future, no doubt. Like I said above, it strengthened the relationship I had with amazing people and weeded out the others who were shallow and close-minded. My circle of friends are wonderful, fun, exciting and inspiring people. I wouldn’t change that for the world!
Advice you can give to other Asian, Gay & Proud readers.
You can be proud of who you are, whether or not you share that with others. Being queer isn’t about being out – it’s about being happy with who you are, and being brave to live how you want to regardless of what society tells us about how we’re meant to be. For some of us, being out can be a really scary, alienating thing. It’s not for everyone. I think that there’s value in both being in the closet and outside of it and there should be no pressure to come out until you’re ready to.
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